February 22, 2013

making the most of now.

I've always been a best-for-last person, someone who saves the best foods and outfits and books for a later time — as if today isn't quite as worthy. Most of my favorite dresses and skirts I've only worn once or twice because I'm always waiting for the perfect occasion, the just-right moment. 

And lately I've realized that my best-for-last philosophy isn't, well, the best.

The thing is, I'm forever trying to hold back from being too future-focused, forever stepping away from the lists and plans and calendars I fill out across every medium because I know that it's important to stay in the present. I know that it's important to make the most of a moment, to see the present as more than just a stepping stone toward something else. Because really, why isn't right now good enough?

I'm not sure I'll ever let go of my save-for-later habits entirely, but I am making a conscious effort to give the present its due — to choose the best for myself right now simply because I deserve it. Besides, otherwise, I may be waiting a really long time to wear my gold sequin dress again.

(Photo: From Our Window | My Instagram)


Erin said... [Reply to comment]

I love this post. I do the same thing and you've made me realize that I need to enjoy more now, while I can. There is never a guarantee that in the future I will value the same things that I do now and I think I need to start focusing on right now being the perfect time to enjoy what I have.

Laura Marie Meyers said... [Reply to comment]

@Erin So true!

siddathornton said... [Reply to comment]

i'm so guilty of this very same habit. i have to actively work against it in order to wear my favorite things on 'normal' days.

Jen Jacobs said... [Reply to comment]

It's so funny because this morning I was picking out a dress for a party tonight. I have a new dress I've been dying to wear but said "oh no, I should save it for a better occasion." Then I read this and it made me realize, why wait for a better day? Today should always be your BEST day! Thanks for that little push, I needed it :)

Elizabeth Mateer said... [Reply to comment]

Right there with you. I think it's so hard to NOT do that. Thanks for the little reminder!

newyorknonsense said... [Reply to comment]

I do the same thing! Especially with clothes. I always save things in fear I'll wear them out too fast, but you hand to wonder... wear it out too fast for what? Great post!

undomestic mama said... [Reply to comment]

I have the same problem. My boyfriend is constantly telling me to not try and plan the future so much.