January 3, 2013

looking forward.

Truth is, I'm a year-round fan of resolutions. Ever since I was little, I've been obsessed with goals — with looking forward, with striving toward something and seeing it through. And even if I don't follow through every time, it's the process that I cherish most. Sure, in the end, I'm always hoping for the gold star, but even when I don't earn one, I still find comfort in the effort. In the movement. Nothing scares me more than feeling still and static, feeling stuck. I need to be moving forward.

I think about my New Year's resolutions for weeks ahead of time, trying different ideas on for size. I used to spend December coming up with big, overarching goals that seemed, quite honestly, almost unattainable. Luckily, with age I've become a bit more realistic. Or maybe I've just realized that it's the little things, not one giant shift, that create the most change.

In any case, this year, I've aimed for variety: concrete goals I can achieve day by day, sweeping plans for throughout the year, plus random acts to slip in as I please. In 2013, I plan...

... to floss daily. It seems silly, I know, but I love to have at least one resolution that's simple, straightforward, and easy to track. Who doesn't love crossing something off a list?

... to create more of a routine. This is our first normal, routine year ever as a couple. In the past, we were either switching jobs, starting school, ending school, moving, or getting married. Now we're finally in a settled place where routines and regular schedules can exist. (Bliss.)

... to read more, watch less. I love reading more than (almost) anything, but last year, I emphasized writing and I just didn't make time for it. In 2013, I'm aiming for at least one book a month.

... to do the things that scare me most. If I let myself, I'd never leave my comfort zone. It's something I have to force, and this year, I'm planning to push myself past the fear. New is good, scared is good. Because when you're scared of something, it means you care.

... and to make a really, obnoxiously big deal out of birthdays. I've always been a major birthday person, but as my life's become busier, I haven't been able to make my family and friends' birthdays as special as I'd like. In 2013, though, I'll be going all-out again. Cue the confetti!

I'm curious: Are you a resolutions person? Or is it not your thing?
Do you have any goals or plans for the new year?

(Photo: Brooklyn Benches Fall 2012 | My Flickr)


DJ said... [Reply to comment]

I, too, am a resolutions person - and I'm finding that maybe even more than making them, I love reading about others' goals. How would I ever have known about this secret hobby without blogging?! :)

I love that last one! I think I'm going to steal it. I have an army of nieces and nephews - I want to be that crazy aunt that always makes a ridiculously big deal about birthdays!

Happy new year!

Maria said... [Reply to comment]

It sounds like you've got some really great ideas for this upcoming year. I hope that you're able to accomplish them all. xo, Maria

Athalia said... [Reply to comment]

Great resolutions, there is nothing wrong with setting yourself challenges. I have two this year: to send everyone I know a birthday card in the post and to make some me time each week, last year was hectic! I should probably follow you with the routine one too, having a routine would be good. Happy New Year! xo


Malin said... [Reply to comment]

I love resolutions, but I'm not at all good at making them or keeping to them, unfortunately. This year I'm aiming to figure out how to eat better (I was diagnosed with gluten intolerance&IBS earlier this year) & generally be healthier. I'm also with you on the reading one!

Good luck with yours!

Lisa said... [Reply to comment]

I would love to hear about what books you're reading--I love your writing style (and can't wait to read you book in the future!), so I think I would love your reading style too!

Treasure Tromp said... [Reply to comment]

I've tried to make flooding daily a resolution before but for some reason it is a hard one for me :) love the last one as well. Happiest new year!!

Divine Ms. E said... [Reply to comment]

I'm not huge on resolutions, but I am a goals person. A goal, to me, is more of striving to do something and less of an empty promise to myself =P

Puput said... [Reply to comment]

I had many plans for this new year, I was so excited but something hit me recently and I almost gave up my plans. I am trying to build my wall again now


Allie said... [Reply to comment]

a routine is probably number one on my list this year too!

Laura Marie Meyers said... [Reply to comment]

@Lisa I have a very, very long list of books to read right now! Just started the sequel to Gretchen Rubin's "The Happiness Project" and next I'm diving into Alice Munro's most recent story collection :)

Angela said... [Reply to comment]

I love resolutions! I am all about the new year, new start.

Oh, My Darling said... [Reply to comment]

Hi Laura! I'm delighted to start reading your blog again as I return to blogging myself in 2013! There is definitely something wonderful about new years resolutions -- I love the variety that you have carefully decided upon for this year! My general goal for the year is to "infuse happiness" into daily life, in every way possible. I'm also trying to drink tea before bed and to read more (possibly even join a book club, for peer pressure to do so!).

Melissa said... [Reply to comment]

I love making lists and goals, so I am always very excited to make resolutions at the beginning of each year. Whether I keep them past February is a different story :)

Your list is great! I love that it's a mix of big ideas and small, easily attainable things. I especially love your birthday plan. Sounds like fun!

Camilla Salem Dugonjic said... [Reply to comment]

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE your birthdays resolution. I might adopt it as well. People deserve to fee special and loved and I am SO bad at birthdays.

Great list!!