November 13, 2012

my two cents: on being in your twenties.

Lately I've had the same conversation with nearly all of my friends. Not the same conversation, exactly, but a variety of different dialogues that end with the same conclusion: Life is sort of hard when you're in your twenties. It's hard because there's no obvious path to follow — no clear, this-is-your-next-step kind of direction. Before your twenties come along, everyone's on a fairly similar road working toward fairly similar things with fairly similar worries and fears and thrills along the way.

And then, well, there's a fork or twelve in the road. And choices. So. Many. Choices.

That's where the real anxiety hits, isn't it? Having to choose. To decide. To navigate a path where we aren't totally sure there is one — let alone anyone at our sides. At any given point, we all crave empathy, people who understand where we are and where we're coming from. And in our twenties, it's not quite as universal as we've been used to. We don't all choose the same thing. And how lucky we are to live in a world where that's so. In a world where freedom is a blessing we can share.

We don't all choose the same thing, and that's the best part. It's the hardest part sometimes, sure, but it's also the best. It's the most important. Because in our twenties, we can learn from one other in a really true, significant way. In our twenties, you're there and I'm here and she's way, way far away and those differences allow room for us to grow, to move, to reach and meet each other halfway.

Change is hard, you know? Choosing is hard.
But it's also kind of the point.

(Photo: Tennessee Valley | My Flickr)


Pen said... [Reply to comment]

I recently wrote about the same thing. It's so true- your twenties are tough! Luckily, there's only a few more years left of them for me, and I've heard 30s are the new 20s. ;)

Allie said... [Reply to comment]

I love that last bit! I'm starting my 20's in 2 months and its such a mix of excitement and nerves.

writermegan said... [Reply to comment]

My quarter-life crisis is in full-swing. Thank you for the reminder that this "crisis" is really the result of a freedom that I should be really grateful for.

Laura Marie Meyers said... [Reply to comment]

@Pen Ha! I always love a good "X is the new X" line :)

Chelsea said... [Reply to comment]

So true! And it's strange to remember that life only gets harder as you age. Enjoy your 20's while you can!! Haha I sound so old right now.

linnerfors said... [Reply to comment]

i am 22 and i have never been more confused than i am right now. thanks for the words though. i needed to hear them. i am currently trying to decide if i should start studying in san francisco or not. (thats why i am reading your blog)

A Thousand Happy Thoughts said... [Reply to comment]

I've been thinking about this for a while now. Especially since I just completed my masters degree and Im wondering what's next? The usual? Getting a job? But where? I studied and lived in many countries and now Im confused about where I want to live next. It also depends on my bf. And we cant decide on this. For me, this last year has been one of the toughest. I ve made choices that others can never understand, yet those that I will never regret. And I hate that I had to make a choice. But I guess I will never know what the other path could have been like...

Anyways! Thanx for the post!

Alice said... [Reply to comment]

So true! And I think it makes your friendships so much stronger when you are all in such different places and nothing is certain. They don't just sail along like they did in your teens, but you work at keeping them and it makes the bond more special. x

Laura Marie Meyers said... [Reply to comment]

@linnerfors I'm pretty biased but... I really, really love this city :)

Hannah said... [Reply to comment]

I also had lots of thoughts bouncing around about being a twenty something...

Thought I'd share just in case you'd like to read:

Still loving your blog. Keep it up!

maximizemy20's said... [Reply to comment]

And you're married? At 25?

Juliette said... [Reply to comment]

i was and (who am i kidding?) STILL is afraid of making choices.
They can have so much impact on so many people and things sometimes...