July 24, 2012

forever.


Planning our wedding has come down to a lot of little details and decisions: programs, linens, place cards, napkin colors, napkin patterns. And all these choices, sure, they felt important(ish) — after all, it's one of the most significant days of our lives, we're standing at the brink of forever, etc. But still, nothing has been quite so special as writing my own vows.

I know it's not the right option for everyone. Religion, tradition — weddings are all about honoring what means most to you, so original vows aren't always the best way to go. For us, though, it's been kind of incredible. There's just something kind of magical about writing that promise — about narrowing your big, sweeping, expanse of a love for that person into just a few short sentences.

All along people have been saying some version of the same thing: "It will hit you. At some point in this process, all the love and the forever and the weight of this day will hit you."

And wouldn't you know it, I've been hit — by the words, of course, always by the words. The surprising part, though, is that I didn't feel their weight. I felt their lightness.

9 comments:

Kristina Streeter said... [Reply to comment]

This post is so full of love and sweetness. We didn't write our own wedding vows, and honestly - that's one of my biggest regrets. If I could do it again, I would certainly write my own.
And I know your feeling of "The surprising part, though, is that I didn't feel their weight. I felt their lightness."
It's a beautiful, comforting feeling, isn't it?!

Olivia.Dee said... [Reply to comment]

what a great post! your words about words (:]) are so lovely. I've never been one to want to write my own vows, but more recently... when that time comes, i think i might go that route

meg fee said... [Reply to comment]

oh laura, that last line has me in tears. it was just exactly what i needed. to be reminded that there are good and hopeful and true people out there. like you. so grateful to call you a friend and want to do so forever.

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Allie said... [Reply to comment]

that is just the cutest photo of radley!!! i love this... really looking forward to, someday, writing my own vows :)

Francesca Forzoni said... [Reply to comment]

oooo I love this - I am so excited for you!! xx

Magdalena said... [Reply to comment]

You should print this post, and save it somewhere special. It's so nicely written and filled with love!

Barbara said... [Reply to comment]

Such a beautiful post. So simply written, but the meaning is so vast :)

Jeannee said... [Reply to comment]

How nice you have the love and the creative drive to write your own vows!