April 6, 2012

familiarity.

Lately I've been missing some of our old local haunts, the cozy corners of Chicago we returned to again and again while living in Lincoln Park. See, I'm the sort of person who quickly becomes a "regular" — a dedicated, brings-all-her-friends kind of patron. 

From bars to bagel stands to stationery shops, I crave that easy familiarity. I like to know the market cashier by name and I like to have inside jokes with the office doorman. Mostly it's because I'm a creature of habit, but it's also because I believe in building relationships. All kinds, any kind, if only because it instills a bit of purpose, however small, into the everyday.

When the woman at the downstairs deli called me "Sweetie" yesterday and offered a sandwich on the house, it hit me: This is home, you know? I'm a local. I have a routine, I pass the same people on the street each morning, and I sort of really love it. I sort of really love all of it.

Attachment has a way of sneaking up on you, doesn't it?

(Photo: My Flickr)

6 comments:

Allie said... [Reply to comment]

I love forming those relationships as well. There is nothing better than walking into a coffee shop and them knowing not only your name but several of your everyday orders. :)

Brittany said... [Reply to comment]

I love when big places start to feel small because of all the relationships. Loved this post.

Elizabeth and Kyle @ Love Is the Adventure said... [Reply to comment]

No kidding. We moved around a lot when I was a kid and I develop attachments SUPER quickly as a result because it always felt like, Hurry up and make friends before it's too late!

And I love belonging. I'm a pretty loyal customer in just about every sense. I have one coffee shop, one ice cream parlor, one Mexican restaurant, one video rental store...

Ana Magdalena said... [Reply to comment]

I guess I am in between when it comes to defining myself as a creature of routine. I love familiarity, but equally love walking around a city where nobody knows my name.

Caiti said... [Reply to comment]

Love this. I thought of you yesterday, I came up this weekend to visit my brother (lives in the valley) and we decided to extend the weekend & headed into the city. We hit up our favorite spots, and I thought of asking you for your recommendations, but it was such a spontaneous decision to go! I forgot how much I love this part of the state...will definitely be up here soon and maybe a little bit more permanently! Have a great week! AND birthday month ;)

Nicole Marie said... [Reply to comment]

i know exactly what you mean! when the guy at the coffee shop starts making my drink the second i step inside and it's ready by the time i wait in line and pay... that's the feeling of being a local :)