April 12, 2011

morning musings.

Lately I've been thinking a lot about class--class in the sense of courtesy, virtue.
Class as a noun, a quality to be possessed.

And I'm picky when it comes to saying that I'm sure of something--really, truly sure. But I know, wholeheartedly, that I'm sure about this: Class, more than any other trait, is what I treasure most in a person.

  I don't necessarily mean "class" in some sort of elite sense, either. This isn't to say that I value manners and etiquette and sophistication above all else--although I do think there's something to be said for a person who remembers their please's and thank you's. 

What I mean to say is that I value decency. Graciousness. Grace. 

I value the sorts of people who are kind when no one's watching, who are honest about their own faults, who speak up for themselves when it's appropriate while maintaining respect for the person they're speaking to. 

I value people who are loyal and true, who selflessly build up other's successes and then easily, humbly, accept praise in return. People who are compassionate and considerate, people who remember to call on birthdays and random days, too, just because you were on their mind.

I value people with genuine civility, the ones who help the old lady at the grocery store and strike up a conversation with the cashier. The ones who see people as people. Who befriend their neighborhood barista, their postman, their plumber, their best friend's sister's boyfriend's aunt.

I value people who appreciate handwritten letters and phone calls, people who realize that some occasions call for something more than a text, something more than an email. Who send a song or a book or a cut-out article to somebody they care about because they just know that they'll appreciate it.

I value people who can admit their mistakes. I value people who learn from them.

I value people with the heart to forgive, with the guts to hold on, with the empathy to understand another person--or the willingness, even, to try.

Like I said: I value class.

And I'm not perfect. No, far from it. I'm not always the person I want to be--a person with tact and dignity and, yes, class. Sometimes I fail. But I can try, I can do my best. And I can hold the world to a higher standard--because I do think we have it in us. 

Don't you?

(Photo: Three Peanuts)


jackiek said... [Reply to comment]

i agree. we all have the potential to do so much and yet some people just let it slip away. that's why i try to live my best. and while, like you said, im not perfect, i think it makes a difference. xo

wilybrunette said... [Reply to comment]

sing it sister. i think we should hold others to a higher standard as opposed to lowering our expectations. i don't like feeling that demanding the very best somehow makes me unrealistic.

this was lovely. such a lovely thought, a lovely list of attributes--many of which i have yet to even scratch the surface of.

Ana* said... [Reply to comment]

what a beautiful thoughtful post!! A woman with class and dignity is worth of admiration and respect.

Jennifer Rod said... [Reply to comment]

i agree. we have it in us. some just dont care to try, perhaps. but i appreciate, like you, people who are kind, thoughtful, genuinely generous and loving... and when we find someone as such, it's good to hold them close and admire.

lovely... :)

Girly Notes said... [Reply to comment]

I'm so agree :)

Allie said... [Reply to comment]

Once again, you said everything i wish I could put into words and fail to do. Everything you said rang so true. So much of this reminds me of my dad and why I look up to him. :)

Tucker said... [Reply to comment]

could not agree more!

Sarah said... [Reply to comment]

I really loved what you wrote here about class. Everything about it so true, and I'm on the same boat as you are. I value class as well, and seeing someone live up to such a class is very admirable & respectable at the same time. It's not easy achieving such class, but everyday's a challenge. We can only try better than we did before. x

becky said... [Reply to comment]

I value all of these, too. And you listed them so well! There isn't anything wrong with these expectations - so high as they might be in this world, but I tell you: they shouldn't be considered high, they should be considered the norm. Similarly, there is nothing wrong with not hitting them all the time yourself. People falter. But a recognition of them? A desire to fulfil them? A conscientious attempt to make an effort? Those are very fine things indeed.

Sara Szatmary said... [Reply to comment]

It's funny how little we think about these things anymore. Thanks for the reminder!

Holly said... [Reply to comment]

wow this was so beautifully written!! :) i totally agree with all of those things :D

Jade said... [Reply to comment]

i agree with you; class is important. i'd love for someone to send me a handwritten letter :)

dee said... [Reply to comment]

As some southern song sayd "i was raised to be polite" :) many people just forget about it too many times. I do try my best, i do care, sometimes more than i should, but i'll giving, no matter what i get in return! :)

Caroline said... [Reply to comment]

This is so beautiful!! And, it made me really reflect and think. Sending you much love today!!! I love the part about forgiving. XO!

Meghan said... [Reply to comment]

I love this post. I just had a similar conversation with my husband. He said I hold people to TOO high of a standard when it comes to manners and what not, and I said there's no such thing:)

Bryan said... [Reply to comment]

Seriously, please ask before you write posts about me. It's getting a little ridiculous.
Especially since you wrote that post awhile ago about modesty.

macaronsandmirabelles said... [Reply to comment]

Love this post!! While technology is great, nothing beats a card or handwritten thank you note. It's truly becoming a thing of the past!