January 26, 2011

because i have an epiphany every time i talk to sam.

Things become more manageable when you put them all into one little box. 
Or, at least, that's what we hope. 

So we make every little worry, every little day-to-day anxiety or fear about just one thing. Maybe we make it all about food, or work, or that one person. And so we reframe whatever bothers us as something tied to that one thing, and we put our every bit of stress into one giant box--one giant box of unrelated problems that we've tried to make into just one.

 And in doing this, we falsely empower food, or work, or that one person by assigning them so much weight--by acting as if everything, every little thing, has something to do with them. 

Because it feels easier to have One Big Issue than a bunch of smaller ones. It feels easier to concentrate on that one thing, to tell ourselves that if we could just fix that, everything would be fine. But really, that sort of thinking doesn't allow us to solve anything; that simply lets us ignore whatever is really bothering us.

And so we have to reclaim control for ourselves. We have to stop placing so much power in losing that last ten pounds, in getting that raise, in making that one person love us.

Because food, work, him--that's not everything. That's just one thing.

(Photo: Ditao)


mskanorado said... [Reply to comment]

This is so true - thanks for this post today.

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Melisande said... [Reply to comment]

this is what i needed to read today. thank you.

Emily Lou said... [Reply to comment]

you are so very wise, miss laura marie. for real.

Rachael said... [Reply to comment]

Were you a therapist in another life?
Very true words. Something to think about.

Ana* said... [Reply to comment]

You shared some wise words with us my dear. Thanks so much, this post is brilliant.

Candace said... [Reply to comment]

Love this!

Anna said... [Reply to comment]

girl. it's like you just KNOW what to say.

thanks friend.