December 1, 2010

cafe musings.

If you're anything like me, there's a lot of things you find yourself missing

Maybe you miss past friends, past homes, past loves, or past moments. Maybe it's your childhood neighbor or a city you visited once or that night you stood under the streetlamp with snow falling all around you. Well, whatever it is, all that missing we're doing means we're ignoring what's right in front of us--means we're passing over new people and places and memories worthy of missing someday. 

'Missing' itself is a funny word, though, isn't it? As an adjective, it can mean lost or gone or misplaced. It can mean absent, lacking, wanting... Or, as a verb, 'miss' can mean failing to catch, mishandling, screwing up. It can mean failing to attend, letting slip, evading. Sometimes, too, it means to pine for, to ache for, to long for

Well, whatever you're missing--whether it's because it's lost or absent, or because you screwed up, or because someone else screwed up, or because you're simply aching for it--try to remember that in missing it, you're also missing something else. You're missing an opportunity for a new, different sort of chance, a different adventure... maybe even a better one.

(Photo: ~ella)


Francesca Forzoni said... [Reply to comment]

so true - love this post! need to remind myself of this more often I think :)

Effy x

vintch said... [Reply to comment]

such a great perspective! i'm always missing my keys..:)

your blog is so lovely and always makes me think and reflect!

Ana* said... [Reply to comment]

What a thoughtful post. Thanks for sharing!

a whole lotta love said... [Reply to comment]

Such words of wisdom from you always! I love your post from yesterday. Do you want to include it on the Love Train? Also, I gave you the Stylish Blogger award today :) Come check it out.


Lillian Chang said... [Reply to comment]

So true! I've been thinking about this a lot - I would ache from nostalgia, wanting to hold onto the past, and the good times, where everyone was in the same place and everything was the same. I think it's in our nature to want to keep things. But then I have to remind myself that right now, we're making memories that we'll ache for in the future. There are still wonderful times to come.

wichser studio said... [Reply to comment]

thank you.

i'm such a holder of the past, a dweller too.

lovely post :)

Caroline said... [Reply to comment]

I really needed to read something like this today!! I love this post! xo

the buzz girl said... [Reply to comment]

gotta love inspiring wordplay!

Novelista Barista said... [Reply to comment]

so true... i needed that! :)

Annika said... [Reply to comment]

i just discovered your blog and i LOVE it! the pictures are so beautiful! :)

*D* said... [Reply to comment]

I love these post recently! it's like your taking the words from my mind that I couldn't come up with myself! and thanks for the reminder. I've been doing too much missing myself recently.

The Owl Diary said... [Reply to comment]

This is lovely and so true. & Just what I needed to hear. I'm missing so much and so hung up on how things used to be, that I'm missing the chance to really embrace new beginnings. ♥

DT said... [Reply to comment]

loving your posts...

you've got an award...

Kelly's Adventures said... [Reply to comment]

I think I need that thank you!

Kendra said... [Reply to comment]

Oh Laura!
This is SO TRUE and I just never thought of it this way.
impecable timing as always :):)

Thank you so much!!

Kelly said... [Reply to comment]

this post is so true! it made me think of this Billy Joel lyric: "You can get just so much of a good thing, you can linger too long in your dreams, say good-bye to the oldies but goodies, the good old days weren't always good and tomorrow ain't as bad as it seems"