September 9, 2010

something to celebrate.

I'm going to write about something that's been bothering me lately: people apologizing for their successes.

I admit that this is something I've struggled with myself. After all, arrogance is not an attractive quality and we're taught early on to be self-effacing and humble. And that's fine.

But lately I seem to come across more and more people---mainly female, I must say---who actually belittle their accomplishments in an effort to remain modest. I understand, of course, that certain situations call for you to be humble, that you shouldn't always point out your achievements and yell "look what I did!"---obviously that isn't appropriate.


Successes are your victories. They are your triumphs. They are (usually) the result of your hard work and your time and your passion. They are, for that reason, something for you to celebrate. Something for you to recognize and value and feel incredibly proud of---not something to be sorry for.

Because here's the thing:
Celebrating what you've accomplished does not mean that you're belittling the work of anyone else. It doesn't mean that you're conceited or that you're boastful or that you're looking down on the rest of the world. 

All it means is that you have enough love for yourself---enough dignity and confidence and self-respect---to honor your achievements, to applaud your own efforts.

So feel good about what you do. Feel proud of your own hard work. 
And please, I beg you, feel worthy when success comes your way.

(Photo: john & julie yarbrough)

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Wild and Precious said... [Reply to comment]

i really like this post! very encouraging!!

s a m said... [Reply to comment]

This is something right out of Oprah

Jade said... [Reply to comment]

i love this! totally agree with you. don't be arrogent, but also don't push every great thing you do under the carpet. there needs to be a balance.

Sera Pie said... [Reply to comment]

I love this post-- no more apologizing for a job well done!

Zabrinah said... [Reply to comment]

Oh my gosh, such a good post. Well said. I needed to read this!

Best wishes from one blogger to another,


Lee Oliveira said... [Reply to comment]

so true. why do people feel the need to talk about it. It should be an organic process. Thanks for speaking out as I feel the same sometimes

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Zarna said... [Reply to comment]

i totally agree!!!

this is a great reminder!


Barbara said... [Reply to comment]

i totally agree with you
have a lovely day