June 3, 2010

ghosts of other, unchosen, possibilities.

I've never read words that captured the feeling of uncertainty so perfectly or so eloquently before... this passage really tugged at my heartstrings, so I wanted to share:
"The problem, simply put, is that we cannot choose everything simultaneously. So we live in danger of becoming paralyzed by indecision, terrified that every choice might be the wrong choice. Equally disquieting are the times when we do make a choice, only to later feel as though we have murdered some aspect of our being by settling on one single concrete decision. By choosing door number three, we fear that we have killed off a different--but equally critical--piece of our soul that could only have been made manifest by walking through door number one or door number two.

In a world of such abundant possibility, many of us simply go limp from indecision. or we derail our life's journey again and again, backing up to try the doors we neglected on the first round, desperate to get it right this time. Or we become compulsive comparers--always measuring our lives against some other person's life, secretly wondering if we should have taken her path instead.

All these choices and all this longing can create a weird kind of haunting in our lives--as though the ghosts of all our other, unchosen, possibilities linger forever in a shadow world around us, continuously asking, are you certain that this is what you really wanted?"

- Liz Gilbert, Committed

(Photo: ...arjun)

7 comments:

Brittany said... [Reply to comment]

i really like this. liz gilbert just understands humans sometimes.

mermaidqueen said... [Reply to comment]

i can't wait to read this!! it's been on my list for a while now, along with 500 other books... hopefully i'll get to it soon!

ALFIE said... [Reply to comment]

wow. this is stunning!

i love liz gilbert. this cements that even more!

Famous Last Words said... [Reply to comment]

i love how you fit the simplest, beautifulist things into your words; your blog is truly amazing and i'm not surprised you have this many followers!
i love your words, and you are beautiful.
don't stop writing.
lots of love always. ♥

m i s s . k r i s t a said... [Reply to comment]

Wow, what a passage.
That actually made me tear up slightly... Definitely something to think hard about. This describes me and my lack of decision making abilities to a T...
Thank you. I can't wait to read the book!!

britni @ Antika Moda said... [Reply to comment]

That is really moving. I'm happy I found your blog!! I'm a new follower :)

Cassy said... [Reply to comment]

thank you for posting this. :)