May 14, 2016

strange and magical.

It feels like I only just found out I was expecting a baby... and now I'm nearly seven months pregnant. Time has maybe never moved so quickly, and it's been surreal to watch the days, weeks, and months tick by as my bump grows and Radley's office slowly but surely transforms into a nursery.

Strange and magical, that's how these last few months have felt. It's the sort of chapter you can never quite prepare yourself for, and although I'm not exactly the type to love getting out of my comfort zone, it's actually been really powerful and energizing to step into something so new. The big questions keep coming to mind: Who am I bringing into this world? Who will I be as a mother? What do I want for this life, and for this family we're creating? How the hell am I going to pull this off?

It's been a while since I knew I was on the edge of something with a big, brand-new chapter right around the corner. That's the feeling you get when you're about to graduate from college, when you're preparing to move to a new city, when you're planning a wedding: You know that you're at a tipping point of sorts, and that soon life will be sorted into befores and afters. You're fully, thrillingly, sometimes frighteningly aware that a giant shift is on the horizon, and all you can do is prepare to move through it. All you can do is envision the other side — and know that it may not look at all like whatever you have in mind.

There have been moments when this feeling has scared me (going to college) and others when I just plain relished in it (getting married), and this time I'm definitely leaning toward the latter. I can't wait to be a mom, and to see Radley as a dad, and to build a bigger life for us. It's the best, most terrifying thing I've ever done, and although I can't exactly be ready for it, I can walk toward it with open arms. I can choose to welcome it in. And isn't that sometimes the hardest part?

April 29, 2016


I turned 29 on a quiet, rainy day last week, and it was perfect. My mom, birthday queen extraordinaire, came to San Francisco to celebrate, and I took the day off so that we could spend it however we pleased. That turned out to be lounging in our robes until something like two in the afternoon, sitting on the deck and chatting and soaking in the day. There was a small dinner that night, some special little gifts, and I was curled up in bed, the baby kicking up a storm, by ten.

Oh, how things change... And to think that I'd just celebrated my 22nd birthday when I first started this blog! At the time I found myself writing about the end of college, the anxiety about what was to come, the long trail of unknowns ahead of me. Now, of course, I know how the dust settled — not quite the way I'd expected it to, but maybe not so unpredictable, either. It's been a wild seven years.

And now, more than ever, I'm ushering in a year that promises to be far different than the rest. In less than four months I'll be a mom, and my world is going to tilt and shift focus, just so. I'm welcoming it in, this life-altering year, as ready (see: not at all ready) for its thrills and challenges as I can be.

Here's to the unknowable next chapter and yet another year of firsts. Another big beginning.

April 9, 2016

around the web: burnout and books.

. . . And a more personal take on the subject from Laura Jane Williams.

The New Yorker's interesting piece on Bridget Jones and the millennial workplace.

Older actors dishing on the parts they took for the cash.

All the buzz about The Nest, the debut novel by Cynthia D’Aprix Sweeney.

a letter to our baby: what i promise you.

I usually reserve the more personal content for this space, but last week, I went out on a limb and wrote about motherhood and our baby on POPSUGAR. For the past few months I've been writing letters to the baby in a little journal that sits on my nightstand. There's a little bit of everything: a letter about my parents, how Radley and I met, my favorite places in Chicago and California. I sort of write things as they come to me, and I'm hoping to give it to him or her when they're a bit older. 

Here's an excerpt from the letter I shared on POPSUGAR, and stay tuned for some others here on the blog! Oh, and disclaimer for the PS story— no, that's definitely not my baby bump in the photo :)

When you try new things, I promise not to show you that I'm a tiny bit (or, more likely, very) scared. Deep down I might be worried or anxious or slightly terrified of what might happen if it doesn't work out for you, but I won't let my fears slow you down. I'll tell you to take chances, to go for it, to trust yourself. I promise to trust you.

I promise to make your birthday a big damn deal. Whether you're turning 1 or 35, I promise balloons and streamers and surprise parties and the cakes of your choice. Some years you might love that, and other years it might feel sort of cheesy, but when you look back on birthdays past, I promise you'll know that you were celebrated by the people who cared about you most.

If you mess up in a small way, I promise to acknowledge it, help you, then let it go. And whenever you mess up in a big way, I promise to feel the weight of it and push you to do the same. I promise to let you make those tough mistakes, to address them when I need to, and to keep on loving you all the same.

I promise to build you one hell of a library . . . or, at least, to bring you to one. I'll help you learn to read and then I'll share with you all the stories, true and imagined, that have made me who I am. I promise to stand by, thrilled, as you discover the Harry Potter world for yourself, and to give you all the Roald Dahl books that swept me away when I was small, and to offer you my collection of heavily underlined novels just as soon as you're able to love them too. I promise you a life filled with words and books and imagination and the space to be as creative as you want to be.

I promise to be active — to set that example and inspire you to keep moving. There will be after-dinner walks and Sunday morning runs and sunny hikes along the beach. Oh, I promise you sports, too. Plenty of them. Your dad will teach you how to throw a football, how to nail free throws, and I'll show you the ins and outs of soccer. Swimming, too. All of it or none of it, I promise that can be up to you. Golf, basketball, volleyball, dance — I promise to let you try whatever grabs you and to let you quit when you don't love it anymore.

I promise to surround you with art of all kinds. To share my love for pop culture, for movies and music and Broadway and Hollywood. I'll show you the good stuff and the cheesy stuff, the Oscar winners and the terrible comedies, the Beatles and the '90s pop that makes most people cringe. (You'll notice, of course, that I won't cringe. And you'll quickly learn that when it comes down to it, our family is Team *NSYNC, not Backstreet Boys.) Over the years I promise to bring you to museums and concerts and plays, and I'll totally get it when you transform into an all-out crazy fan of something, or someone. If you swear you won't make fun of me, I might even show you my homemade Justin Timberlake poster from 2001. Like I said: Team *NSYNC, OK?

When you have a bad day, I promise to listen. Or give you room to breathe, whatever seems best at the time. And when you get upset or angry or really, in-your-bones mad at me, I promise that I'll try to understand. I'll practice patience; I'll try, anyway.

Year after year, I promise to carve out all kinds of special time for just you and your dad. From day one I'll do everything I can to support that relationship and to let it be as special as the one I share with my dad. Together you two will take camping trips, go to football games, road trip along the California coast. He'll introduce you to his reggae favorites and way, way more 49ers trivia than you'll ever care to know. On weekends, he'll bring you along for Sunday drives, and over the Summer, he'll let you tag along to watch Giants games from the bleacher seats. Hockey games, though — you'll save those for me.

You can see the rest on POPSUGAR!

March 29, 2016

a not-so-small kindness.

I met a woman who shows me a small kindness five days a week. Well, to her it's a small kindness, but to me it's a big gesture. It's the sweetest, most day-making of gestures. 

A few months ago I stepped on to the bus to find her sitting in the front row, the window seat. Her bag was on the seat beside her, so I quietly whispered to see if I could sit there instead. It's not like I really needed to explain myself, but I did anyway. "Sorry," I told her. "I'm nine weeks pregnant and feel really sick unless I sit in the front row." At that her eyes softened and she smiled. She told me about feeling sick with her first child but not with her second. "Be hopeful," she said.

The next day I found a man sitting in the window seat, the familiar woman beside him. As soon as I stepped on to the bus, she got up and moved to the second row. "I saved this for you," she said.

That same woman has saved the front row seat for me, in one way or another, every single day since that first time we met. Sometimes she's placed her bag beside her, other days she's told people it's "for a friend," and when necessary, she takes the seat herself so that she can give it up when I arrive.

It's honestly one of the nicest things anyone has ever done for me. 

 I know that it's just a seat, but as anyone who's ever dealt with motion sickness or morning sickness (or, lucky me, both!) understands, that small kindness can be a game changer. It brings that simple kind of relief that makes you breathe a bit easier, and I couldn't be more grateful to her — this thoughtful, one-of-a-kind stranger. My thank yous have gotten repetitive at this point, so I plan to bring her a little gift one of these days. A book, I think, because she reads a new one each week.

I'm sharing this because it's a good reminder to look out for other people. Do the small things, and not just for the ones you love, either, but for those who seem like they could use that little bit of hope.

March 21, 2016

the special quality in my mom I hope to pass down.

I've been thinking a lot about my parents lately — who they are, who they've made me. In the past I've written about what I've learned from my mom and what I've learned from my dad, and this week, I wrote a short essay on my mom's most special quality, the one I hope to pass down. (I also called her out for her cheesy jokes, which really are on a level all their own.) Here's the essay:

People talk a lot about the mistakes their parents made, all the cycles they hope to break. And my parents aren't perfect, of course, but what I'm really holding on to these days is everything they did right. They set the bar in so many ways, and I can only hope to love like them.

March 7, 2016

a saturday ritual.

By Fridays, I'm typically exhausted, and on Saturday morning, I sometimes need a little something to jumpstart my day. (Especially since I've had to give up my morning coffee!) For the past few months, I've been turning to the same ritual, which gets me going and puts me in a great mood: I catch up on one of my favorite podcasts while tidying up and checking a few to-do items off my list.

I know, I know — it doesn't sound all that thrilling or revolutionary. But honestly, the mix of doing something I really want to do but rarely make time for (listening to podcasts) while doing something I absolutely do not want to do but really need to do (99% of my to-do list) turns out to be a total win-win. Between the fun of the podcast and the simple satisfaction of being productive, I get double the joy. And I actually look forward to cleaning! Go figure, right?

Some of my favorite podcasts: Serial (of course), Dear Sugar, StoryCorps, This American Life, Happier With Gretchen Rubin, Modern Love, and Mystery Show. (And if none of those work, I listen to Adele's new album for the billionth time, because of course.)

Do you have any weekend rituals you swear by?

March 5, 2016


I can finally share the good news: Baby Meyers is due in August! (And yes, we already have plenty of Blackhawks and 49ers onesies for him/her. Obviously.)

If you've been wondering why it's been super quiet around these parts lately, well, now you know! I honestly just couldn't sit down to write about real life, so I've been focusing on the novel and trying to wrap my mind around what's ahead. We're so, so excited, and I can't wait for this next chapter.

December 31, 2015

2015, a year of learning.

Over the past few years, I've made a point of writing an annual lookback. At first it was just a way to document each year's highlights so that I could remember them, but it's actually become more of a practice in gratitude. I called 2012 my "favorite year yet," 2013 was a year of firsts, and 2014 was a year of opposites. 2015, I think, was a lesson in balance — a year that called for grit, grace, and some serious endurance. There were rough patches, and there was a whole lot of good. A lot of people and moments to be really, really thankful for. Here's to 2015, a year of learning:

January: Oysters on Hog Island. Cozy dinner parties. The annual PopSugar winter bash featuring (lots of) dancing and a pretty strong romper game.

February: A rosé picnic in the park with Alex. 80 degrees in the middle of winter. A sunny Valentine's Day weekend in San Diego, where we basically relived our college days. Sunburns. A return to chilly Chicago to see my six nieces and nephews.

March: A weekend on the Russian River. Girls' night in Chicago. San Francisco visits from my two oldest friends. A trip to Denver to meet little Madison Mae, who stole my heart right away. The big Game of Thrones premiere — where I just about died meeting Kit Harington in the hallway.

April: NYC for a work trip. A night with the lovely Meg. My BFF Kira in San Francisco. An interview with Michiel Huisman, who's as charming as you'd expect. Week-long birthday celebrations. A late-night toast with friends who fully committed to the birthday cause.

May: A wedding weekend with my handsome date, who tore his ACL that week. Date nights in Sausalito. Long afternoons reading on the deck. The mountain play, aka a Peter Pan production at the top of Mt. Tam. A night out with Britt for the Jenny Lewis concert, where she sang "Portions For Foxes" and we could barely handle the nostalgia.

June: A Chicago trip to see the Stanley Cup playoffs — and a Blackhawks victory! The PopSugar summer party. An array of photobooth props. A four-hour drive to see the Salt 'N Pepa concert (!!). A hilarious Lady in the Tramp-inspired shoot at work. Margaritas and card games with Sam.

July: The Fourth of July in my hometown — my favorite place on my favorite day. Humidity that was out of this world. On my bookshelf: Among the Ten Thousand Things. (Loved it.) Radley's ACL surgery and a whole lot of Friends marathons. Novel writing late, late into the night.

August: Our third wedding anniversary! An afternoon with my hilarious grandma. Mumford and Sons, Elton John, and Leon Bridges at Outsidelands. The 1989 concert, confetti in my hair. Interviewing Zac Efron and marveling at his ridiculously perfect skin. Napa wine tasting... with a baby.

September: A much-needed week in Santa Barbara. Cocktails. Card games. A waterfront wedding and late-night dance parties. The arrival of our best friends' daughter, sweet little Charlee Sue!

October: Britt's 30th birthday festivities. (See: giant balloons.) A surprise visit from my sweet mom. The historic moment when *NSYNC retweeted my story and changed my life forever. Quiet afternoons at home. A long weekend in Cabo to lounge on the beach and celebrate one of our favorite couples.

November: Elizabeth Gilbert's first-ever writing workshop. New friends. The moment when I surprised my sister-friend for her engagement party. Sun and snow. PopSugar editors filling my house to transform it into a Harry Potter wonderland. (Best photoshoot ever?) My 10-year high school reunion — and the very, very long letter I wrote to my future self when I was 18.

December: A whole month of holiday celebrations. Another Chicago weekend for my childhood best friend's gorgeous winter wedding. The sweetest moments with my nieces and nephews. Hosting Christmas Day in our living room-turned-dining room. Houseguests. A really, really special visit from Mom and Dad. So much gratitude and so much love.

2015, you were a big one.
Cheers to 2016!